WELCOME TO CUSTODY PLAYERS
We are happy and sad, at the same time, to see you on our website. Perhaps, you have found yourself as one of the litigants in a very bitter custody battle. Are you about to lose visitations with your children? Custody Players was created to assist people in your predicament. After reading reviews posted by the members of our community, we hope that you feel better informed about a judge, a lawyer, a supervised visitations monitor and the rest of the Family Law players that may have a life changing effect on your litigation. We are not attorneys, therapists or serve in any other professional capacity the Family Law System. But we have been through the mill. We have experienced the Family Law racket and decided to make this journey less painful for others.
Background:
The idea for this website came about as a result of a very painful experience. I was court ordered to have a Supervised Visitations Monitor during visits with my two kids. Until then I have never heard about SVMs. I did not know where to turn for information about my prospects. There was none out there...No reviews or ratings. Monitors hardly ever provide any referrals claiming client privacy. Basically, you are hiring someone you know nothing about other then they may have a clean criminal record, have been fingerprinted and completed a 24 hour course on monitoring. I learned the hard way what damage monitors can do in court. Therefore, I decided to change that.
On this website we have a full list of Supervised Visitation Monitors as well as the rest of the custody players that our members can rate and review for the benefit of others. It is not a complete list by any means. Therefore, visitors are encouraged to add new players to our database and post reviews about them.
I was sued by my ex “best friend” and “confidant”. The lawsuit, in which I appeared “pro-per”, involved financial matters and custody of our two children. The litigation lasted for approximately three years which is considered average by the industry standards. It ended tragically for all of us. My ex-spousal unit, my children and I were dragged through every major money sucking segment of the system: mediation, attorneys, minor’s counsel, psychological/psychiatric evaluations, therapists and supervised visitation monitors. We had two "Gods", the judges, that ignored the law in their own "sweet" way.
Suffice it to say, my two children have been severely alienated from me. The Family Law System and the mental health establishment in this country refuse to recognize and treat Parent Alienation Syndrome (PAS) as a form of child abuse.
In the end, I appealed this case which is still pending. My children are still alienated. They live in a different state now. I do see them regularly but with long periods of time in between the visits and not without a monitor. A monitor is usually appointed by a judge if violence is proven in a case. No violence ever existed in my situation. One of the "Gods" simply chose to believe false allegations made by my ex-spousal unit without any legal or physical evidence. The ex-spousal unit is out of substantial sum of money for attorney’s fees and I suspect, as a result, had to move to another state where life is cheaper. The only happy campers were the lawyers, therapists, monitors and minor’s counsel. The "Gods" are happy too because they look busy and get to keep their jobs making $181,000 per annum in Los Angeles. Talk about the budgetary issues in our court system...
As mentioned before, we had two judges presiding over this case. The first one, I believe, was really trying to make something positive out of this fiasco the best he could. However, he was replaced by one that really demonstrated what tremendous damage can result from incompetence and indifference.
After all the smoke settled, more or less, I felt not only that justice had not been served in my case, but also realized that my experience may not be unique, and there may be many others in the same predicament. I began to understand that other than your attorneys who may or may not have your best interest at heart, there is really no other place where one can get the all–encompassing information about what really goes on in this multi-billion dollar Family Law racket, and what to expect from the army of money hungry players.
I would have greatly benefited if I knew more about the commissioners I consented to so they can preside over my case.
My children and I would have had comfortable and revitalizing visits if they were handled by a competent and caring supervised visitations monitor who knew something about PAS.
Our therapy sessions should have been handled by a professional who had credentials to reconcile high conflict cases involving PAS as well as reunification and co-parenting therapy experience so pivotal to achieving any positive results.
I felt obligated to create this information hub where people can share their opinions about all the players in the Family Law System so that others have easier time surviving the years filled with emotional pain and possible financial annihilation.
Notwithstanding the aforementioned, I still choose to believe that there are Custody Players in the Family Law System that genuinely care about the litigants/people they process and, most importantly, children who are already emotionally scarred after being torn between two contemptuous parents and more often than not subjected to some form of child abuse.
Always keep in mind that the only winners in divorce and custody lawsuits are the Family Law System and its players. It is best for your children and you to settle disputes amicably.
Max Shtirlitz, CUSTODY PLAYERS team member.